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What the Research Shows
Men's most common complaint about online dating is silence. Women hope silence will be taken as "no, thank you," but instead it is often taken as being ignored. Most often she isn't cold; she simply can't bring herself to reject him, to hurt him, so she puts off saying no until saying nothing becomes worse than saying no. Here we put one another first (Philippians 2:3), and that means always answering. It only takes a moment: press No Thank You in a message, Not Interested on a match, or Nice to Meet You, Not Interested on a handshake, and he is sent a kindly written reply. A kind "no" spares him weeks of wondering.
Women's most common complaint runs the other way: men who talk about themselves and ask nothing about her. So listen, and ask about her. Real interest in her answer surfaces the next question naturally. Scripture calls a husband to live with his wife "in an understanding way" (1 Peter 3:7), and understanding begins with questions.
How people meet here
Where most sites hand you a search box, Sola Singles opens in the Fellowship Hall: rooms for books, cooking, gardening, chess, movies and theology. It is a covenant community of single believers, and you get to know people the way people always have — naturally, over something you both love, with marriage as the honest horizon.
Filtering & matching
See everyone on a map, or scroll through every member. Filter by location, denomination or conviction — or not at all. Set a conviction as a requirement and the site enforces it: members who don't meet it never appear among your matches and, if you choose, cannot message you. The rooms stay common ground, where anyone can talk with anyone.
Doctrinal statement
One doctrinal statement is the door, and every member affirms it in full. It is precise on purpose: it says what it affirms and names what it rejects, so the errors that slip through a vague "are you a Christian?" do not slip through here. Read it now, before you sign. That is the floor everyone here stands on.
Position papers
Above that floor, faithful believers differ: baptism, the church, the millennium. John MacArthur and R.C. Sproul differed on all three, argued it out in public, and came away closer friends — The Men Who Inspired tells the story. So for each position the site keeps one careful paper, fair enough that the people who hold it would own it, and a member can require that it be read before a first message reaches them. Understanding comes before conversation.
Under the church — yours
Sola Singles doesn't stand outside the church or beside it. It stands underneath it — underneath yours, whose rulings we honor at our door. Every member names their church at signup. The name stays private unless you choose to show it, but it means nobody here is an anonymous stranger accountable to no one. For a visible mark, request the optional Church Badge. We contact your church's elders, and once they confirm you are a member in good standing, the Church Badge appears on your profile with the date it was confirmed. Requesting it never slows your profile down.
How we treat each other
Most community rules are written to prevent hurt feelings. Ours are written to protect people, and the standard is the ninth commandment (Exodus 20:16). Nobody here will be slandered, gossiped about, mocked, or twisted into something they never said. And the same commandment protects the honest: you can disagree plainly, to someone's face, in love, and not be reported for it. Every member agrees to our Code of Conduct at the door, so a shy person can speak up, a bold one can speak plainly, and both go home still friends.
When conflict arises
When sin or conflict arises, we follow Matthew 18: go to the person first, between the two of you alone, and speak the truth in love (Matthew 18:15; Ephesians 4:15). A sin committed in public may be answered in public: what was said before the whole room may be corrected before the whole room, in the same love (Galatians 2:11–14; 1 Timothy 5:20). Church discipline means something here — a member removed by their church is removed from this community (Matthew 18:17). And when something in the Fellowship Hall needs attention, the flag goes straight to our phones. This community is moderated by its staff, personally.
Built for protection
Built with women's protection in mind from the first line. Every report is read by a person. Accountability is welcome here, not designed out: a woman can bring her father or her elders alongside as she gets to know someone. And not everyone here is single. Married members belong to this community too: husbands and wives further down the road you are on, who stay to encourage, to counsel and to set an example in the rooms where singles meet.
Who can join
Membership is for single believers, eighteen and older, in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand and South Africa. Every member verifies their identity before their profile goes live.
Application review
Most members go live as soon as their profile is complete. Three situations get a personal read from us first: an identity check that fails, no church membership to name, or a past divorce, which we weigh against Scripture with your church's judgment in view. A person reads every one — nobody is turned away by a machine — and you will hear from us in hours, not days.
Built to a standard
Nothing here opens half-built. The site and the iPhone and Android apps were built professionally and thoroughly, as for the Lord (Colossians 3:23), and no one is asked to pay until they are finished. Notifications are yours to control — right away, in digests, with quiet hours and a Lord's Day mode — and when someone writes to you, you will know.
How launch works
The doors are not open yet. When they are, you will not walk into an empty room: the Fellowship Hall opens in stages, and each one brings a little more of the house into view. Our aim is a thousand men before launch, so that when matching begins, there is someone worth meeting on the other side of it. Sign up now, and hold your place in line.
Membership & price
Free for women — always, not as a promotion. Men: $29.99 a month.
That is the only plan: one monthly subscription, cancellable at any time. If thirty dollars a month would strain you, then courtship, a wedding and a family would finish you — this is the cheapest thing marriage will ever ask of you. There is no free tier, and there never will be, so every man a woman meets here has already decided that finding a wife is worth something to him. That's not a paywall. That's a filter. Billing begins on launch day, never before. There are no refunds; every appeal is read by a person at appeals@solasingles.com, and the full billing terms are in the terms.
Promises
Five things this site will never do — written down so they can be held against us.
People are not cards, and finding a spouse is not a reflex game.
No points, no streaks, no scores, no rankings — nothing to climb, ever.
No blurred photos, no "someone likes you — pay to find out who."
Men pay from the first day. No man sees a single woman's profile without paying.
Leaving is as plain as joining. No retention maze, no guilt screen, no hidden button.
Contact
Questions, from members or anyone else: support@solasingles.com.